We recognise that Christmas is often a cherished time for families and loved ones, but it can be more complex for non-nuclear families, with blended families being a common example.
Blended families can include:
The 2021 census revealed that there were 781,000 blended families recorded in England and Wales. However, it is notable that this data uses a narrower definition of ‘blended’, so the number now is likely higher.
Christmas is not a straightforward affair for all families, there are several complications that may arise, including:
It is usually best for parents to reach an agreement themselves regarding children’s arrangements at Christmas, either privately or through meditation. This approach offers the most flexibility and helps to protect relationships between separated parents and step-families, allowing everyone to focus on the child’s needs, though there are steps you can take.
A real-world example:
Consider a child named Mary, whose parents, Paul and Jane, are separated but maintain a good relationship. Jane has a new partner, Greg, and they have a child together, with Mary living with them. Paul, on the other hand, has remarried Lisa and is stepfather to Lisa’s children. However, Jane does not get along with Lisa and prefers that Mary does not spend time with her.
So, the question arises: Who does Mary spend the Christmas period with?
A solution
One might assume that Mary would spend Christmas with Jane, Greg, and her half-sibling since she lives with them. While this arrangement works for many families, complications arise when Paul also wishes to spend Christmas with his daughter.
There are several options in this scenario:
Additionally, other relatives, such as grandparents, may want to spend Christmas with Mary or Paul’s other child.
This scenario illustrates how easily disputes can arise over child contact arrangements at Christmas, especially in blended families. So, how can these disputes be addressed?
What to do if there is a dispute
If discussions or mediation are unsuccessful, a more structured approach may be necessary to reach an agreement.
Family arbitration is an option for families who cannot reach an accord and prefer to avoid family court, which can be expensive and time-consuming.
Family courts are also unlikely to prioritise matters related to Christmas child contact arrangements due to significant backlogs.
Regardless of the resolution path chosen, it is crucial to keep the child’s needs at the centre of the discussion.
For further advice on contact arrangements for children in blended families at Christmas, please contact our team and find out how we can help.
