Collaborative Law

We’ve all heard how acrimonious separation and divorce can be; after all, it’s understandable that there may be feelings of hurt, anger and bitterness.

Sometimes this leads to intractable disputes which can only be resolved by the intervention of a court. If the court takes over, it may impose a solution which neither party really wants, leaving you feeling helpless and dissatisfied with the whole process.

Well, there is an alternative – known as “collaborative law”.

Traditionally, when couples split up, each takes independent advice from a family lawyer, and working through their lawyers they try to reach an agreement on how best to settle their differences. The parties lawyers negotiate on their behalf … how to share the money and property of the marriage, or how to care for the children after the separation.

In collaborative law, instead of the parties solicitors negotiating on their behalf, the parties and their solicitors sit down together to work things out face-to-face, to find a solution which works for everybody.

Of course to make this work requires people with the right frame of mind, and expert family lawyers who have been trained to work in this way.

You and your partner will need to share a desire to make this work, to find a solution to your problems rather than simply arguing about what you want or what you think you’re entitled to.

For those who have a genuine desire, this approach can be hugely successful; you remain in control of the process; you set the agenda, so you talk about the things that matter to you most; you set the pace, so you’re not bound by court dates or obligations to file documents with the court. You will still have the benefit of expert legal advice, and ultimately the key decisions remain yours to make.

For couples who genuinely seek a fair solution, and who want to minimise the pain of family breakdown, collaborative law can offer you and your partner the best solution.

Simon Nellar is a collaborative family lawyer and would be happy to tell you more about the process.

For further information please contact Simon Nellar on 01904 528383 or email sfn@hethertons.co.uk.

 

 

Family Law Team

What Our Clients Say

Mr T, York

“I take this opportunity to sincerely thank Hethertons Solicitors for helping throughout this difficult period for both my ex-wife and myself. Hethertons Solicitors was very professional and very skillful in the way that he dealt with the mediation.”
2016-06-20T11:03:47+00:00
“I take this opportunity to sincerely thank Hethertons Solicitors for helping throughout this difficult period for both my ex-wife and myself. Hethertons Solicitors was very professional and very skillful in the way that he dealt with the mediation.”

Ms S, Harrogate

"I would definitely use the services again if needed."
2017-05-08T15:32:22+00:00
"I would definitely use the services again if needed."

Ms C, York

"After my first meeting I felt as though I was in safe hands and I could trust Hethertons Solicitors. I was helped to put things into perspective which helped clear my mind of all the unimportant issues. "
2015-07-10T16:08:53+00:00
"After my first meeting I felt as though I was in safe hands and I could trust Hethertons Solicitors. I was helped to put things into perspective which helped clear my mind of all the unimportant issues. "

Ms L, York

"Hethertons Solicitors made me feel calm and comfortable during every step. What I thought may be a difficult process was in fact simple and smooth running."

 
2017-01-06T10:08:23+00:00
"Hethertons Solicitors made me feel calm and comfortable during every step. What I thought may be a difficult process was in fact simple and smooth running."  

Mr S, York

"Hethertons Solicitors has guided me through a very difficult separation and divorce over the last year. He has given pragmatic advice in clear English with patience and empathy."
2015-07-10T15:01:10+00:00
Alister Jones has guided me through a very difficult separation and divorce over the last year. He has given pragmatic advice in clear English with patience and empathy.

Mrs C, York

"I found Hethertons advice and counsel caring towards me as your client and extremely professional."
2015-07-10T15:04:58+00:00
"I found Hethertons advice and counsel caring towards me as your client and extremely professional."

Mrs L, York

"I felt Hethertons Solicitors handled everything with a real degree of compassion and never lost sight of my needs throughout."
2015-12-16T10:21:10+00:00
"I felt Hethertons Solicitors handled everything with a real degree of compassion and never lost sight of my needs throughout."

Mr W, London

"Excellent advice and service that we appreciated."
2017-07-19T10:24:44+00:00
"Excellent advice and service that we appreciated."

Ms Q, York

"We were completely satisfied with everything especially the way things were explained in 'plain English'"
2017-01-09T13:29:30+00:00
"We were completely satisfied with everything especially the way things were explained in 'plain English'"

Mr M, York

"The help provided by Hethertons was invaluable and extremely supportive during difficult and somewhat traumatic times."
2017-05-22T15:12:06+00:00
"The help provided by Hethertons was invaluable and extremely supportive during difficult and somewhat traumatic times."

Mr P, York

"Fantastic service, fantastic people very professional in very difficult times, can't thank you enough"
2015-07-10T15:04:40+00:00
"Fantastic service, fantastic people very professional in very difficult times, can't thank you enough"

Mr H, York

"Hethertons Solicitor have provided there most professional advice and help in making my divorce painless over the last 2 years."
2017-01-09T13:19:03+00:00
"Hethertons Solicitor have provided there most professional advice and help in making my divorce painless over the last 2 years."

Mrs S, York

"Hethertons Solicitors handled my mediation in a sensitive and unbiased way. He managed to put me at ease and alleviate many of my worries in potentially painful circumstances."
2017-03-20T17:15:48+00:00
"Hethertons Solicitors handled my mediation in a sensitive and unbiased way. He managed to put me at ease and alleviate many of my worries in potentially painful circumstances."

Mr S, York

"I would like to thank Mr. Nellar who did a great job but also the rest of the team who were always happy to help."
2015-09-29T10:21:54+00:00
"I would like to thank Mr. Nellar who did a great job but also the rest of the team who were always happy to help."

Ms B, York

"Everyone we have dealt with at Hethertons has been of the same class of excellent customer service and attention to detail."
2016-05-05T11:37:41+00:00
"Everyone we have dealt with at Hethertons has been of the same class of excellent customer service and attention to detail."

Ms S, York

"Simon provides extremely wise counsel and a calm head in what can be difficult negotiations. In the 5 years Simon has acted for me, he has always delivered the best result possible and I am extremely grateful for his dedication and hard work in my legal affairs."
2017-07-26T11:36:17+00:00
"Simon provides extremely wise counsel and a calm head in what can be difficult negotiations. In the 5 years Simon has acted for me, he has always delivered the best result possible and I am extremely grateful for his dedication and hard work in my legal affairs."

Ms B, York

"I was completely happy with the service provided by Hethertons. Everything was explained to me clearly and in a respectful manner, and I was kept informed of progress made."
2017-01-20T14:41:33+00:00
"I was completely happy with the service provided by Hethertons. Everything was explained to me clearly and in a respectful manner, and I was kept informed of progress made."

Mr G, York

"Big thank you to the team at Hethertons for the sound advice, guidance and support I received at a very hard time in mine and my children's lives."
2015-07-10T15:04:02+00:00
"Big thank you to the team at Hethertons for the sound advice, guidance and support I received at a very hard time in mine and my children's lives."